Counselling is a space to think through situations which leave us wondering “What Now?”
Including if you (or a loved one):
- Are you experiencing relationship difficulties and want to work through your part in this?
- Are you experiencing difficulties with you/your partner's ability to be sexually intimate?
- Have a sexuality and/or gender identity that is outside of society’s cis-heteronormative expectations
- Feel that your sexuality and relationship education has been inadequate, and you want to do better - for your own life and as a parent
- Have an intersex variation, and would like to talk through what this means for you
- Have a relationship outside of societally expected monogamy, or would like to explore how this could happen consensually
“All too often [we] believe it is a sign of commitment, an expression of love, to endure unkindness or cruelty, to forgive and forget.
"In actuality, when we love rightly we know that the healthy, loving response to cruelty and abuse is putting ourselves out of harm's way.”
- bell hooks
The Counselling Services I Offer Include:
Our sexuality, gender, relationship and erotic identities are important parts of who we are.
I provide a non-judgmental space to think about how narrow the social expectations for our intersecting identities can feel. Especially when we don’t quite fit the normative molds.
Our sexuality is a very sensitive but important part of our lives.
It is more than who we are attracted to. It includes how we think of ourselves as sexual beings, our attractions, the kinds of sexual engagements we have, want to have, have no interest in having, and more. When we are not comfortable with our own sexuality, it can sometimes be a source of (inner) conflict in multiple areas our lives. When we are comfortable with our own sexuality, life seems to flow smoothly. However, when our sexuality is a source of conflict in our lives, life seems to be full of hurdles and obstables
Parenting often brings up our own stuff. Including things we thought we had already dealt with.
I provide a non-judgmental space to unpack what parenting is bringing up for you. What about your own childhood experiences are clashing with what you are trying to create for your own child/ren.
This counselling aims to assist you in being more present for your children.
My approach includes supporting responsive, conscious and attachment parenting. This includes an understanding of what is reasonable to expect from children at different stages of their development.
Some people seldom spend time thinking about their gender. If this is you, it is possible that you have never really questioned your experience of gender.
Some people think about their gender a lot.
Maybe there is something that has not quite sat well with you, when you think about what is “acceptable” when it comes to gender norms and gender expressions in society?
Maybe the gender you’ve felt yourself to be does not quite matched up with the gender assigned to you?
I offer a non-judgmental space for you to think about the (your) gender and all that it encompasses.
Most of us grow up with the idea that monogamy is the only legitimate way to have romantic/sexual relationships. It’s what we see around us in our communities and in society at large. Often the only kinds of “real” or “legitimate” relationships represented in the media.
At the same time, there are many representations of how so many people seem to struggle with maintaining monogamy.
If you’ve been thinking about ways to approach relationships differently, and would like a space to think through this, enquire about booking sessions with me.
Frequently Asked Questions
Counselling provides a safe space to for a person to talk about their concerns, without fear of judgement.
I work from a collaborative perspective, where the client is the expert of their own experiences. I bring my psychological training, skills and knowledge to the room, and together we think about the concerns you bring to the process. To help you make sense and meaning of these things, and to help you better understand your own mind and behaviours.
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Payment for sessions are the responsibility of the client, paid after every session.
If you would like a reimbursement from your Medical Aid, it is your responsibility to submit your paid invoice to the Medical Aid. Please keep in mind that my fees are above the medical aid rates, and you may only be reimbursed at their rate.
The counselling I offer is for people who are experiencing a lot of situational pressure and stress, and feel like it is making them crazy, not that they are crazy. Being under huge amounts of stress and pressure often makes people feel ‘out of control’. Many of my clients come for counselling to get back in the driving seat of their lives, so that they are no longer controlled by the emotions and turmoil which stress can create.
As a Sexologist and Registered Counsellor, I have many counselling skills, but I am not a Psychologist. This means that I will need to refer you to someone with more in-depth training if the limitations of my skills and training are reached. An example is people who are actively suicidal, or are in active addiction.
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There is no touching of any kind during the sessions. I might shake hands with my clients when they arrive for their session, as a form of greeting. That is the sum total of the physical contact between my clients and myself.
Contact Me:
casey@whatnowcounselling.co.za
Text Message
073 221 2609
Address
Minuach Street, Highway Gardens, Germiston